The Blog...must end

So I have been remiss at keeping up with this blog…What the heck have I been doing you ask???

Well I have been living life…in between work and school I have had some darn good times. I even gave up dating for Lent. I gave up drinking too but I was much better at the giving up dating. I didn’t check OK Cupid, I didn’t go to any single dinners, honestly I never even finished the book. I just did ME….and what do you think happened next??

Into my life walked a wonderful man and we are having a darn good time. We fit together well. We like the same things. We communicate well. Most importantly when I am with him I can just be myself and guess what he likes it that way.

I shared my blog with him and said what do you think? He said “well my search is over” and you know what…mine is too.

I took my dating profiles down, all those I could remember; I stopped the speed dating and single dinning newsletters. You would be amazed at how much email you save when you do this.

Right now everything is new and fresh and sweet and I feel a little bad for anyone that stops me and says “What’s new?” because then I start smiling and giggling and tell everyone about “Him” so you have been warned. So this will be my last post in this blog...I have two others that I need a little TLC…that is when I am not living life with Mi Media Naranja.

I am D O N E…

OK I admit it the search for my half-orange should really be changed to making lemonade out of lemons. I have been feeling less then optimistic after thinking I was going to end the year on high, but I was reading another blog today (http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-dater-x-the-pressure-of-the-new-years-eve-date/) and there were a couple things the author said that really struck me. She was lamenting about a guy she had been seeing who pulled the fade. I know I have been there, but then he had the nerve to call her out of nowhere and ask her to be his New Years Eve day.

Hello Mr. I was an Asshole…I am Sorry...Yes you are sorry if it took you 3 months to figure out you were an asshole. (Sorry had to get that out).  

So like the author I recognize that I am an awesome, smart, hot, caring woman who is trying to be the best person I can be. Note I said trying no one is perfect. And in 2010 I have given too much time to men who either have attempted to use me or generally disrespected me.  A man should make you feel like a 10 on all levels and like the author I want to feel valued. I want to feel special. I want to feel adored. And I want to feel those same things for someone else. But I’m done putting energy into guys who don’t make me feel wonderful.

So I am putting out in the universe if you want to play games or use someone…find someone else I don’t have time for you.

LOVE is like candle light YOGA

So I have been nurturing my orange…probably not as well as I should but I have been known to kill house plants so this nurture thing will take a little time. I was however inspired the other day. It was during my yoga class. I have not been a yogi for long but I love hot yoga and fell in love with it the first class. One of the things I do to nurture my orange is to dedicate my practice to my search and after class recently I decided that LOVE is like candle light YOGA.

Let me tell you why…

Well the first thing I you practice in the dark. I mean really can you see everything in a relationship? Do you want too?

Yoga is a practice, you are never perfect and it and just when you thing you got you find there is more to the posture.

Everyone does it a little differently and that is OK.

When you practice you are alone, but you are community working together.

It is hard, It hurts, It is frustrating but you will be back same place next time.

If you don’t attend to it and focus you will take steps backwards in your practice and your relationship.

Everyone is there for different reasons. Everyone takes different paths. But you are there because you want to be.

Yoga is good for you and you can quit anytime but you would only be quitting on yourself.

There are some things you will be good at and some things you have to work for but in the end you feel a sense of peace.

And like Yoga I ache to be in a loving relationship when I am way. I know it will be hard but it will also be good and I am going to LOVE every minute of it.

Living it is more fun then reading about it...

Dating optimism is so much harder then is should be…I am just living my life having a great time..trying to get in the last of the fun before the snow makes me want to hibernate. So I know what would be so hard about that? Well for one thing I am exposed to way too much negative relationship stuff…A quick not even search of the internet yielded all these goodies today.

·         What you should never say to a guy

·         10 dating truths you should not ignore

·         31 things I wish I knew at 21

·         All are men cheaters

·         8 reasons guys cheat

This morning I was listening to the radio on the way home from the gym and Steve Harvey and his crew were talking about his new book.

So instead of being a dating optimist I have been spending time thinking of all the things I ever said and done wrong and realized I had jacked it up before 21 and why does it matter because all men are cheaters anyway.  Oh and Steve said we all nag….

I am making a pledge to myself I am going to stop reading and internalizing this stuff because it just to sale a magazine and prey on our greatest fears life is too short to worry about what I did in the past.

Life is the moment…going to live it not read about it.

Let the optimism begin…

First a little about the book it encourages dating optimism means being a more positive dater by sowing the orange seed of your ideal relationship and growing it to “fruit-ion.” It is like the secret for love by focusing on powerful positive thoughts about dating; you can actually change your brain, which changes everything from your body language to the way you perceive others and what you ultimately attract. By using dating optimism, I plan to attract your half-orange, the love of my life. Mi Media Naranja is an Argentinean term that literally translates to “my half-orange” it illustrates how we feel about that perfectly partner. This is not someone to complete your life but to complement you. The first task is to complete my  Big Love List which I right now claim the option to revise over time but I must start somewhere….

I want a relationship in which ….

• We can laugh together in good times and in bad
• We respect each other and those around us
• We allow each other independence
• Is full of great conversation is honest and real
• We challenge each other mentally, physically and emotionally.
• We travel and see the world together
• Respect each others family and can support each other in how we deal with them
• Full of adventure, good times, good friends
• We are both thoughtful and romantic
• We are both supportive of each others goals and dreams
• We are both comfortable being affection, flirty and sexual with each other
• We make time to appreciate the arts
• We define a common goal for our family and work towards it
• We  allow each other to grow not only as a couple but as individuals

Let the optimism begin…